So I did a thing... For my 35th birthday I planned a trip. It wasn’t for family, nor was it for my girlfriends. For the first time I went on a trip and it wasn’t work related... I planned a trip for ME. With me. Just ME. I should have titled this Me, Myself and I lol!
For this milestone birthday I didn’t want to just go to a dinner, or have party. I wanted to plan some days away doing things I wanted. No rushing. No pressure. No time schedule. No anxiety. Not worrying if any of my friends will show up... This birthday I wanted something different. Quiet time + Comfy clothes. No glam. Just being in my most authentic self.
Y’all it was AHMAZING!! I chose to have a spa experience. I went to Boulder Resort
and Spa in Arizona. I read that Arizona has some of the BEST spa resorts. It was different than most places I would pick. So I went there, and it was breathtaking!
But I have to admit... I wanted to cancel several times. I was thinking will it be fun?! What will I do there by myself? Will the kids be okay? Will my husband survive? Can work hold until I get back? Not to mention my to-do list of things I have to get done. All of these thoughts were running through my head. I really almost gave in. That’s when I realized that’s the very reason I should go!
Why is it so hard to do things for ourselves?Why is it hard to accept that we deserve alone time?!
Women are nurturers by nature. We take care of everything and everyone. We SUCCEED with the many roles and responsibilities we have. We work hard + meet deadlines for work, we cook + plan dinner for the family, we are there for our friends. We’re HER clutch! We make sure our homes are neat, clean and peaceful. We finish school, and accomplish our goals.
Through COVID we homeschooled our children, adjusting to a new normal.
We are just dope! Admit it.
So why can’t we admit that WE need a break?
Why can’t we admit that alone time would make us feel better?
I literally pumped myself up all over again about the time I was going to spend with myself. I had the time of my life! I want to share how you can as well, guilt free :)
1.) Accept that you are worthy of alone time
Often when we feel guilty about time to ourselves, it roots from feeling unworthy feeling like we don’t deserve it. Chile, but everyone deserves some alone time. Better yet a trip! It’s in those times that we can be refreshed + rejuvenated. We gain perspective and gratitude for our lives. We’ve been through a lot, and we work HARD! Do it for yourself, do it for your children, your husband, your job. Our spaces are better when we are happy + peaceful ijs :)
2.) Prepare + Plan for your trip
Don’t just think about it, DO IT!
If you plan + prepare things can be taken care of at home. Work won’t be overwhelming and you won’t feel guilty about things you need to do. You can get them done before you leave :) Put yourself on the calendar allow what you want and need to revolve around you.
I suggest for your first time a 2-3 day getaway. It’s ok to take baby steps :)
3.) Research + find a place that speaks to YOU
Know the mood you want.
Is it the Bustlin City, The Cozy Mountains, the quiet Country side, or a breathtaking Beach.
If you find a place that speaks to you, it will lessen the chances of you thinking about things at home. Get somewhere that you can truly disconnect and be.
4.) Do YOU.
Lay around. Tour around or not...
Plan for the activities you’re interested in.
Typically on trips, we compromise what we want to do for our partners, family and friends.
You can finally do what you want, no pressure.
Reset. If you reset, you will see the importance of doing it more often. Come home rejuvenated as a awesome boss, great mom, or wife :)
The more you do it, the less guilty you feel
Trust me...
I hope this helped! If it has, let me know!
Have you planned a trip just for you!?
If so, share! I would LOVE to hear about it and perhaps you can share some things you think would be helpful.